“I Did Not Expect a Polygamous Marriage”: Hadiza El-Rufai Reflects on Life with Former Governor

Hadiza Isma El-Rufai, the wife of former Kaduna State Governor Nasir El-Rufai, has shared candid reflections on her marriage, revealing that entering a polygamous home was not something she had initially anticipated. Speaking about her life experiences, the architect and acclaimed author provided a rare glimpse into the personal dynamics of her union with the high-profile politician.

Hadiza, who is the former Governor’s first wife, noted that when they first wed, her expectation was a monogamous lifestyle. However, as life unfolded and her husband took additional wives, she had to navigate the complexities and emotional adjustments that come with a polygamous setup.

The former First Lady of Kaduna State, known for her wit and literary contributions, emphasized that while the transition was unexpected, she chose to focus on her personal growth, her career, and her role as a mother. Her reflections offer a nuanced look at the intersection of tradition, personal expectations, and the realities of marriage in a cultural context where polygamy is common.
“When I married Nasir, I didn’t think I would be in a polygamous marriage,” she shared. “But life happens. It’s about how you handle what comes your way.”

Hadiza El-Rufai has long been admired for maintaining her own identity outside of her husband’s political career, often using her platform to promote literacy and female empowerment.

Do you think it is possible for a woman to truly prepare for a polygamous marriage, or is it always a difficult adjustment? Share your thoughts and comments below!

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